If his/her mindset, work ethic, and positive attitude can’t help amplify you to become a better version of yourself then he/she is trash.

If you are not elevating me to become a better me then what are you doing? Can you challenge me, push me, and help me dig deep? The D appointments will only get you so far.

The question we should be seeking before we get serious in ANY relationship is Can You Help Elevate Me? Fuck a look, bank account, fancy car, who you’re connected too etc. Whats that mindset about? Are you showering me with positivity? Are you upfront? What are your long term goals? When that belief in myself dwindles can you help me build confidence in myself again? It comes a time in life when we all have to grow. I met my husband in college when we were broke broke, poor, poe poe. I used to think our relationship wouldn’t work because I was used to niggas showering me with gifts and things that DO NOT MATTER. I look back at the GIRL I used to be with all my nice things, but I didn’t have what my husband has helped bring out of me now. Confidence, ambition, drive, and the mindset of never wanting to settle for less.

Yes, I’m strong enough to believe in myself, but having that extra person there who loves you dearly and wants the best for you is a plus plus plus! Having someone you can lean on instead of someone always needing to lean on you is major. Is your significant other/husband/bae/boo or whomever you spend an extensive amount of time with decisions challenging you to do more? Are they pushing you past your own expectations and encouraging you to explore your own capabilities? This is crucial and important. Netflix is cool, fucking all day is cool, going out to eat and to the movies is cool, but how will any of that elevate you or get you the bag? How will being comfortable help you accomplish those crazy goals y’all got inside y’all head? If you’re okay with living a comfortable life, this ain’t for you. Comfortable doesn’t help you grow or evolve. You’re basically saying I’m gone settle for this lifestyle forever. Baby, it’s so much more out there, how could you not want it all? True love is challenging each other to push past barriers in order to accomplish everything you both ever imagined in life. Anything is possible especially if you have the right person on your team to push you further. If he/she doesn’t challenge you, you’ve given up on yourself.

I thank god for my husband everyday. His integrity and drive to make sure I’m on top of my shit helps me to enhance my decisions to become the best version of myself daily. I don’t need nor want a “Yes” man. I need someone that’s honest with me, someone who tells me Key, you ain’t been on yo shit. A relationship rooted in complacency is detrimental for both you and your partner.

I don’t write things to be arrogant or to pretend like my shit is all in order. Clearly we aren’t in the position we want to be in right now, but we working. I don’t want any man or friends who can’t push me to be a better me, PERIOD. I don’t want any man or friends who’s okay with being comfortable. I want to be surrounded around bosses, because that’s what I’m striving to become. You are who surround yourself with. Choose wisely!