Key, you have to respect my privacy! Then the world got quiet. Naw forreal, I was shooketh! I’m like wtf did he just say to me. I had to ask him to repeat it again. Key, you have to respect my privacy! 🗣 WHAT PRIVACY! Issa wife! Ain’t no privacy! I’m here, I’m there, I’m everywhere. I need to know it all. I was so pissed, I couldn’t even finish my Hot Funyuns. Then BOOM he let me have it. My husband doesn’t usually raise his voice, but when he does I just sit there looking stupid 😂 agreeing to everything he say. You know those situations you get in with bae, when you are wrong, but you right, but you really wrong and they just be going off. Yeah, one of those.

For months and months now I have been begging him to do this YouTube channel with me. Although he never fully agreed I just kept trying to force the camera into his face when I knew that he wasn’t interested at all. I’m trying to get the bag, he don’t understand. I thought maybe I could get it to grow on him (highkey still hoping). My husband is a VERY private person. He doesn’t like people to know his moves and he’s def not a big fan of social media. He barely likes this portion of my blog 😂😂 He explained that if Youtube was something that I was passionate about I should do it, but I still have to respect his privacy in the end. This includes being nosey when his phone goes off (I’m nosey AF) going through any of his things, and feeling obligated to know everything. Boundaries had to be set.

A healthy marriage will not exist without privacy. I failed to understand that although we are one, everyone has different desires and comfort levels in life. My husband doesn’t feel it’s necessary to share the intimate details of our marriage. He explained that us being private is something special to him. You have to be able to communicate your boundaries with your partner and respect their opinion and space. That applies to all things (phones, emails, social media accounts) etc. If it’s not yours, it’s not any of your business sis. Yes, even if you’re married! Now wait, there is a difference between privacy and secrecy. Privacy is healthy. Privacy allows you to keep things away from the public or your spouse that you don’t feel is suitable for them to know. Privacy is not feeling pressured to share every thought or opinion you have. Privacy is respect. Secrecy is information that’s withheld due to the damage that it can cause. Secrecy is guilt. Secrecy is deceit, and a lack of trust. Secrecy needs to be a boy bye get the f*ck on. I have access to all my husbands social media accounts, phone, email, bank account etc. But I also don’t feel the need to access any of this information without his acknowledgment. Now the wind does blow my eyes to his phone when it vibrates often, but that’s just because ain’t nobody texting me and I’m nosey. 😂 Seriously though, marriage is built upon honesty and trust. If I can’t trust my husband, then he doesn’t need to be my husband. Period! 🤷🏽‍♀️

Now don’t get it twisted. I was once the CEO of the “Go through his phone” organization. Sis, I was so slick and creative with it. I done did it all! The panties trick 😩 sliding it with my foot to the bathroom, stealing I-cloud  accounts etc. You’ll get tired of it! My husband knows I have 0 tolerance for that anymore and that just came with setting boundaries before we got married. If a man can’t respect the boundaries you set and feel comfortable with in a relationship drop him! Especially if he done been on some f**k boy shit in the past. I know it ain’t easy, but I’m just trying to save you some time.

My husband is very supportive of my blog and everything that I envision for my life. It was very hard for me to accept that he wanted more privacy, but I’m so happy he was able to express that respectfully. It was an opportunity for us to set more boundaries in our marriage while growing and getting to learn more about each other. Super excited to continue to do life with you! Love you boo. Still subscribe to our YouTube page though 😂 The Dotsons.