Omg, we’ve been married for 2 years! I get speechless just thinking about it. My hubby and I decided to celebrate our wedding anniversary in Vancouver. Please check out my last post to read all about how amazing Vancouver is.

Over the weekend snap and I sat and reflected over our marriage and everything that we’ve learned in these past two years. We talked about what we could improve, and also what we felt are the most important factors that keeps our marriage strong.

Here are three things we feel are key to any marriage/relationship.

Put/Keep God First 🏾

We are nothing without him. Even when we don’t understand his plans, we always turn to him for every need, concern, fear etc. My husband and I have always bonded over our love for God, but as a unit our relationship with him is growing stronger than ever. We are definitely not perfect, but we are trying our best to serve our purpose in this lifetime. We pray when times get rough and also when things are going great. He’s keeps us sane in our toughest moments. If you are feeling incomplete in your marriage/relationship, please invite god into your life and allow him to humble and change you. When things go left turn to God first and then your spouse! Not your friends or family!

Love/Loyalty

Love can mean sooooo many things and is one of the most important factors not just to relationships/marriages, but in life. Love to us means loyalty. Personally, loyalty is everything in our relationship! Loyalty is when you can fully put your trust in someone and know that they have your back whether you are wrong or right 🏾 Loyalty is being able to openly communicate everything whether it upsets your spouse or not. Loyalty is being private about your marriage. Loyalty is keeping your spouse needs over anything. Loyalty is putting each other first. Loyalty is accommodating. Loyalty is being/feeling safe. Loyalty is never having to worry about feeling betrayed. I’m here for him through whatever, as he is for me. We don’t involve our family or friends in our marriage at all. If there’s an issue, we take it up with god and each other. Hence, I’ve said that twice already. A lot of relationships/marriages fail due to people not being loyal. Without loyalty your relationship is nothing! Running to tell your business or problems to your friends/family is not loyal! You can’t build a happy marriage/relationship like that. The bond between you and your spouse has to be stronger than ever. It’s not one person on this earth that can tell me anything about mines, period! I’m riding to the end whether he’s right or wrong.Whatever the issue may be, we will discuss that in private. It’s not any of your business. Some of y’all just talk wayyyy to much. You have to think long term and stop quickly reacting to every situation when you are upset.

Communication

In the past, I was known for easily shutting down or bottling up those feelings when I was upset at something. I mean I wouldn’t say a word, but would be raging inside. When I would finally speak out, I would blow up. Marriage has helped me become a better communicator. How can I attack the one person who’s on my team at all times? My husband is really good about communicating every feeling or opinion that he has. As he always says, how can I help you be better if you don’t express your feelings to me? So true! You can’t expect your spouse to read your mind or just know how you’re feeling. Openly communicate your issues. Most of the time things that I get upset about or 1. Not even worth the anger 2. A misunderstanding. My husband is a constant reminder that I need to get and keep my shit together. It’s important to be specific to avoid misunderstandings. It’s important to be a great listener without being defensive. Communication is the key to solving most problems in marriages/relationships. Don’t lose yourself or a good spouse because you are afraid to open your mouth. Just like your momma used to say, closed mouths don’t get fed.

Overall these two years have been filled with love, lessons, and blessings. I always tell my husband that I think god created us specifically for each other. I am an emotional firecracker and my husband is probably the most chill person I’ve ever met in my entire life. He was brought into my life to make me a better person. Where he’s weak, I am strong and vice versa. Marriage is truly LIT! Not just on the internet, and I truly pray that everyone will get to experience true love and loyalty in their lifetime 🏾 Continue to keep us in your prayers.