Be a wife, not a roommate ❤️

Date day is critical in our marriage. Going on dates allows us to spend quality time, build memories, talk on a deeper level, and learn new interesting things about each other. These moments help me focus exclusively on my husband and assist in building our marriage and bond.

Sometimes our lives get so busy that we tend to forget one of the most critical needs in any relationship, quality time. Quality time allows us to build, let loose, learn, and distress from anything that we are going through in life. As we are growing together, I know and understand that our perspectives and feelings are going to change towards certain situations. Having this  time allows for me to keep up with my husbands thoughts and also his emotions. I believe as a wife it’s crucial that I give my undivided attention to what’s most important to me, and that’s keeping him first and happy.

Our date days are always random due to our schedule. However, we like to do Tuesdays if possible because the movies be $5 😂 We will be millionaires still going to the $5 movie! On this particular day I got up early to take care of business so that I was available when his schedule allowed him to be open. Our date included going out for pizza, a $5 movie, and sitting in the car for hours talking about funny moments from our childhood. Sitting in the car talking is something we weirdly do all the time. It gives me that teenage love feeling when your back is against the door and you’re watching him laugh at all your corny jokes. I enjoy learning more about him and being an ear to anything he may want to discuss. Date days are our weekly therapy session. These dates show the willingness of making your spouse a priority. It’s an essential and need to every marriage and relationship.

Although I don’t have kids, I know as a parent it’s easy to lose focus on your hubby when you’re always so busy with the kids. Most believe that children cause distance between you and your spouse. I know I can’t speak much on it, but we all are aware that marriage comes with a lot of sacrifices. I’ve met women that have discouraged me from having kids because they feel as if THEIR marriage wasn’t the same afterwards. They’ll even look at pics and say “Y’all so cute, wait until you have kids”. However, I’m happy that I’ve learned from all their mistakes and soaked up all the advice I could get. Often their excuse was “I was too tired” “He knows I have to watch my show” etc. Sometimes marriage/ relationships will require you to be tired, and participate in things you don’t feel like doing. I’ve personally worked many 12hr shifts and sacrificed sleep (sometimes staying up the whole day) to hang with my hubby. I know that quality time together is vital and also a team effort.

Date days doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. You can watch a movie, cook together while dancing to some tunes, play games, take a walk, go out for drinks or dinner, or even sit in the car. Anything that will keep you guys focused on each other is clutch!
You have to make time to date, communicate, and physically connect. Set some boundaries if possible. Its imperative to put forth the effort for the sake of your marriage. Now let’s be in the honeymoon stage with our boos forever. What do you like to do on date day?