5 Things I Learned In March

What happened to March! 2018 is moving waayyyy to fast for me. However, I’m praying that it continues to move in the direction of my favor 🙌🏾

I want to lie so bad and tell y’all that my life has been soooo hectic which is why I haven’t been blogging, but I’d be lying. I been chilling! 🤷🏽‍♀️ Usually I would beat myself up about being so inconsistent, but I’ve really spent this month observing, researching, and learning more about me. GIRRRRRLLLL YOU DON'T KNOW YOURSELF YET?

Nope, not fully. Everyday my perspectives about life are changing. Everyday I’m learning to take in every situation and learn from it. Here are 5 things that I learned in March.


GODS TIMING

Why do you give me all these hopes and dreams and keep me in the same spot? When you get that feeling of rage because you’ve been working so hard, praying, keeping faith, not cursing people out in traffic, and still feel as if you’ve accomplished NOTHING. It’s not your time. It’s frustrating not to know the next steps in your life. It’s probably one of the worst feelings for me since I can openly admit that I like to control everything. I felt myself getting frustrated with God. I told him too😩 Then my friend sent me a sermon randomly, and it reminded me that God uses those waiting periods to strengthen our faith in him so that we can continue to change and grow spiritually. There is a purpose for every season that you are going through or will go through in the future. Proverbs 19:2b says “Impatience will get you into trouble” His timing is never early, nor late. When you truly rely on God your emotions will change. Having true faith, is having a sense of peace. Our job is not to figure out when, but to learn from the lessons in this season and apply them to our purpose.

TREAT YOURSELF

Sometimes when I buy myself stuff or spend unnecessary money I start to freak out. I’ll leave my items in the cart for hours before I purchase it. I’ll keep my receipt and bag for days. I’ll triple check my bank account even when I know the funds are available. I tend to think about what else I could have done with that money. Oh, what about the children in Syria, my family needs this, I need to put this in my savings. Welp, I’m happy to say that I’m over that stage in my life. Treating yourself is a great way to boost your self esteem and help you focus on self love. You deserve to live a happy life, it’s short. I may have just wrote this because I just bought some bundles 😩 and we all know how expensive that is 😂🤷🏽‍♀️

SAY NO

To family, friends, boss, significant others etc. You are not obligated to say Yes to anyone. Man, sometimes I think I’m superwoman, or I care about others feelings and relationships so much, that it’s hard for me to say No. I had to say No to two VERY difficult situations this month (a job, family) and I felt SO good after I did. Putting to much commitment on yourself will literally run you to the ground. You are not mean because you said No. Your yes doesn’t mean anything until you’ve learned how to say no. There are ways to turn someone down gently. These words can help build and strengthen firm relationships in your life. So my new favorite words are No, Naw, Ummm Nah, No Thank You, Oh Wow thank you for the offer, but No Thank You, Hell Naw, F*ck No, Bye, Bih NO, Nahhhh I’m good. You get the point.

ADMIT, PRAY, MOVE FORWARD

Time without social media really got me deep into my feelings. When my hubby wasn’t around I sometimes felt lonely. I kept replaying failed scenarios in my head, thinking about friendships that I lost and people that I’ve hurt and it made me feel like shit. It’s okay to think about the mistakes you’ve made, but it’s not okay to constantly choke on your own regret. Take ownership for your actions, pray about it, and move forward. When that person or situation is no longer a healthy influence for you, it’s time to cut all ties with it. Sometimes good people make poor choices. There’s not one perfect human being walking this earth.

ANXIETY IS NORMAL

Four people have talked to me about their anxiety this month and I have never felt more relieved. Anxiety is something that I’ve struggled with for years! But, it seems as if everyone struggles with it. Rather it’s due to school, confrontation, depression, control, finances, family, black lives, spouses, etc. You are not the only one battling something.