"My husband will never let me wear that". Good to knnnoooowww, but sis, I didn't marry your husband. Why do people feel as if wives are supposed to look, act, and do things a certain way because "we're married"? Who came up with these man-made rules? Note I said "man-made" before some people, get on here talking about what I said about not living by God’s rules. I would consider my husband and I baby Christians. We are still spiritually under construction (work in progress) and trying to find our path. So after a lot of controversy I decided to do some research from the bible regarding the appropriate dress code for a wife. However, I found no particular scripture that stated "you can't wear that" and "don't dress like this". Please educate me with love if I'm wrong. Most of the scriptures I've found talked about women dressing modestly (Timothy 2:9). Does dressing modestly specifically mean "you can't dress sexy" I didn't interpret the message that way. I felt most of the passages referred to dressing appropriately for the occasion, and dressing out of respect for your husband.

I always ask my husband what he loves most about me. He usually replies "that ass" or something crazy, but on a serious note it's usually my personality, confidence, compassionate, and that I keep it 100. I love him and he absolutely lovessssss my style. If that's what made him fall in love with me then why would I change it? Why would he want me to change it? God put my husband in my life to protect, provide, lead, guide, and encourage me to be a better woman, not to change me into someone that I'm not. Obviously, I'm not going to wear the same things I wore as a single woman, but if my husband approves it, I'm out here sis! Marriage is all about effort. It's important for me to keep my body up, and dress meticulously from time to time if that's what my husband wants and allows. It's about having a mutual respect and knowing what your spouse will find appropriate and unacceptable. I respect my husband, and I know that my appearance is valuable to him as it is to me. (No, appearance is not the only thing that's important!) Some couples may not find appearance to be a big deal, and that's completely fine. Everyone has their own niche in their relationship. You can't compare what you think is morally correct to what someone else may think because we all come from different backgrounds and cultures. A crop top in someone's home may be completely acceptable, but considered totally disrespectful in someone else's home. Either way it's up to you to decide if you want to live for others or be comfortable in your own self image. I look back at pictures of myself as a little girl and I've always been into belly shirts etc. It's who I am and I love me!

So no, I don't dress like a wife, I dress like Cadarrius Dotson's wife. I dress what I feel comfortable in. I don't dress "provocatively" to appeal to other men. I have no interest in any man other than my husband. When I get dressed my husband is always on my mind. I'm always considering what he would say or the look he'll give when I come out the room dressed. It's one of my favorite parts of the day. (I'm literally blushing as I write) That moment when he's like “damn boo, you look amazing” it’s like a daily accomplishment for me. Once again that’s just something that I like. So wives, girlfriends, lil friends, etc. Stop living your life off of other people’s expectations and start living for you. Your time here is limited. Don't let other people opinions about your appearance drown out your inner voice and who you are. I'm accepting my path of fashion God has chosen for me confidently, and I understand everyone won't agree and can't take that journey with me. There's nothing wrong with dressing sexy for my husband whether it's at home in lingerie or in a sexy dress for dinner. If he is comfortable with what I'm wearing your opinion is not needed. I don't live my life for you. Your validation is pointless. My physical beauty is symbolic of the spiritual beauty of Christ. He graciously created my beauty and body for my husband, not for your judgement. The only perfect person was Jesus Christ. Tis the season to be free. Spread love and positivity.

Girrrrlll your husband let you wear that